Abby has been consistently getting up 2 to 3 times a night for the last month or so. Come to think of it, she's been doing this almost since she was born. There was a stretch of a week or two in there that she only got up once a night. And I think she's slept through the night a grand total of 4 times (every time has been for Peggy....).
It's really been killing us lately. So we asked the doctor what to do. Apparently we have to get Abby used to going to bed on her own. As many of you know, Abby has issues with going to sleep. We think she's gotten addicted to us rocking her to sleep (although often that doesn't even work). She just cries and cries some more sometimes.
So the doctor has recommended that we start putting her in her crib before she falls asleep. I know this is not a new concept to most people, but it is to us. If we ever dared to lay her down without her being asleep, she would just scream. And I mean SCREAM!
We thought we couldn't do it. The doctor even warned us that the first week would be terrible. So we started a bit last night, but more so today. Abby has done pretty well with it so far (much better than we expected). As we thought, she sure does scream. But usually calms down within 5 minutes to a low "winding down" cry. With her naps today, she didn't cry much more than 5 to 10 minutes. Our plan was to let her cry for 5 minutes, pick her up to calm her down, then put her back down. We envisioned doing this for at least 30 minutes each time for the first few days. But, luckily, that hasn't been the case.
It's weird how things work. We always knew she shouldn't be falling asleep in our arms, but sometimes it just takes someone telling you something to make a simple change. Hopefully this is a change that will hold up and have a positive effect on both Abby and us (meaning our sanity).
In addition to all of the above, the doctor thinks that Abby is relying on a bottle to fall asleep. So, we're starting to give her a smaller and smaller bottle each of her feedings throughout the night. A few days ago, she was getting four ounces twice a night. We're already down to 2.5 ounces each feeding. Hopefully, we'll be able to keep lowering that amount, until she doesn't expect a bottle in the middle of the night anymore. That combined with her putting herself to sleep should (hopefully) allow her to sleep through the night better.
Again, it's such a simple change. We just always thought that she was so hungry when she woke up, that we wanted to fill her up as much as possible, so that she'd sleep longer! It turns out that maybe giving her more was encouraging her to wake up more!
Why didn't we think of that?!?!